My husband and I lead a marriage small group at our church. The topic of marriage, the importance of it to the Kingdom of God, and all the challenges that come with it, are close to our heart. I’ve written numerous times about our imperfect marriage. Our marriage is imperfect because we are imperfect. In fact, a statement of our imperfection might be an understatement. Let’s just say we’re daily ... View Post
How to Survive Pregnancy Loss as a Couple
How can you and your spouse survive the grief and loss of a pregnancy as a couple? Here is what I learned. I lost my first baby only hours after I’d first heard the thump-thump of his heart during an ultrasound. Just six weeks along, our baby was all heart and yolk sac. When my body expelled that blip of baby I was alone. I remember the confusion of the pain, the cramping I thought was a ... View Post
Pinning the Imperfect Marriage
I don’t Pinterest. At least I didn’t used to. I looked up healthy kids recipes once. That was a mistake. Apparently it’s not good enough to feed your children veggies; the carrots, cucumber and olives should be arranged into adorable, friendly penguins. Seriously. Who has time for that? I’m lucky if I feed my kids with sufficient speed to save me from the jaws of their fury. I’ve been known to ... View Post
Is Busyness Killing Your Marriage?
In Who’s Targeting Your Marriage? I brought up the idea that our marriages have a target on their back because they’re important to God’s kingdom. As this series continues, I’m addressing the five ways Satan gets a foothold in our marriage, and how he saunters into our bedroom – sometimes with our inadvertent permission. So far we’ve covered Selfish Ambition, Temptation, Comparison, and Unity. ... View Post
Is Your Marriage United?
In Who’s Targeting Your Marriage? I brought up the idea that our marriages have a target on their back because they are important to God’s kingdom. As this series continues, I’m addressing the five ways Satan gets a foothold in our marriage, and how he saunters into our bedroom – sometimes with our inadvertent permission. So far we’ve covered Selfish Ambition, Temptation, and Comparison. Number ... View Post
Whose Standard Are You Measuring Against?
Sometimes I wish my husband would close drawers. Like really. Take a step back, babe, and close a drawer. I have friends who love to share that their husbands do all the cooking. And one who’s gaining weight because her husband is such a good cook. Ya’ll, I didn’t even know that was a thing. Seriously. There are men who cook something more than chicken and eggs? Or who do more than watch the grill ... View Post
3 Ways You’re Getting Tangled by Temptation
In Who’s Targeting Your Marriage? I brought up the idea that our marriages have a target on their back because they are important to God’s kingdom. As this series continues, I’m addressing the five ways Satan gets a foothold in our marriage, and how he saunters into our bedroom – sometimes with our inadvertent permission. In my last post I discussed our selfish ambition. Today, we delve into ... View Post
Are Your Ambitions Selfish?
In Who’s Targeting Your Marriage? I brought up the idea that our marriages have a target on their back because they are important to God’s kingdom. As this series continues, I’m addressing the five ways Satan gets a foothold in our marriage, and how he saunters into our bedroom – sometimes with our inadvertent permission. For the last four years I’ve had my own business. I’ve worked intimately ... View Post
Who’s Targeting Your Marriage?
Is your marriage perfect? If you’re nodding, you’re lying. If you’re not lying, then we can’t be friends. I don’t have room for that kind of perfection in my life. Here’s why. My husband and I got into a disagreement this week. For the life of us we couldn’t see eye to eye. This was probably our 400th squabble this year. Not that I’m counting, and not that I'm prone to exaggeration. And even ... View Post